Life is Tough

So I have 2 sisters an older and younger so I’m stuck being the middle child. I’m always picked on by my sister Rebecca, my older sister. She always calls me selfish and a mistake. Sometimes I believe that I was a mistake. it wasn’t just her though I was picked on by my mom as well, she always said that I was an emotional basket case and that when I got my period I would be so much more trouble. I hate my family. They always say that they love me but I know that that’s not true because if it was then they would care more. For example whenever I get straight A’s (which is always ever since middle school) they say I need to do better!!! I’m like WTF because that’s the best you can do but when my sister gets a bad grade they just tell her to do better and then leave it at that.

Then don’t even get me started with my little sister. She says she’s so tough but really whenever i so much as pinch her she goes running to mom or dad that I hurt her and then I get scolded at. I always get blamed for doing everything. for example when I don’t do anything I get yelled at for not trying to stop my sister from hurting my little sister and then if I do something I get yelled at for getting involved.. So whatever I do I get punished. My parents don’t treat us equally even though they say they do but I wouldn’t expect them to understand… my mom was the third child of ten, two older brothers and the rest younger. She was the oldest girl so I can’t go to her for help at all. Then there’s my dad. He was the oldest of eight so it doesn’t work and besides he’s a guy and doesn’t understand.

I don’t know if this would matter but I was born the year of the tiger, which has a sensitive personality while I was also born the month of the Gemini, the sign of a split personality… not a very good combination if you ask me. My parents as well as my sisters would always say that I was so lazy and that I don’t do a thing to help out at home even though i do.

My sister Rebecca and I always got into a fight and my mom would always say that it was my fault even though she started it. Then she would say to my sister to just let it go because I was so emotional.  My mom says that I should know better because I should be more mature and yet I can’t do the things I want to do. My big sister Rebecca always gets things first. For example my parents said to my sister that when she got her driver’s license that they would get her a car but when I got one, they said that I had to share it. I hate that I always had to get hand-me-downs.

My little sister gets the privileges I never got and I’m sick of it. I hate it when my parent’s say that they don’t need to go to my orientation because they already went to my sister’s and you know what if we weren’t shown around the school I would have probably gotten lost.

My mom always blames me for everything! if she sees a cup she just assumes that its mine even though it’s not and I get yell at and threatened that if I don’t go put it in the sink then I won’t be able to go onto the computer and such.

I always feel like an outsider within my family because of the way they treat me. No one should have to feel the type of neglect I felt so this one time when someone was being bullied I helped her out and then an acquaintance asked me why I did that because no one liked the girl and I said because I don’t like to see someone being bullied because it’s not fair.

i always feel sad and fall into depression because I know I will never be accepted by anyone not even my friends. I know from the age of nine that I had to be independent because they didn’t love me the way they loved my sisters.

p.s. my mom says that I need a life but says she’s way too busy to drive me there so I have to bike to my friends house but she rides my sister everywhere.

FYI: if you don’t agree that middle children only selfish and jealous because of the lack of love then you have no heart and have no right to be on this site!

– Rachel

15 thoughts on “Life is Tough

  1. But I’ve got to agree that I have the best phone in the house so far but my mom said that my brothers getting and iPhone 6 cause of his A in science???

  2. I agree with you. I get blamed for everything and get neglected. I have an older brother and a younger sister. I got a B- in my science test and I’m only in year 7 so my brother said that it isn’t that good because he’s in year 10 and gets A’s . There’s a difference! And I never get to do anything I want but my brother gets to do everything. I’m independent too but I’m a bit naughty to get my parents attention. My siblings are spoilt and get everything they want no matter what the price is. No one should get neglected. I’ve even talked to my parents about it and they say they understand but they don’t. They claim that they were the middle child out of 4. That can’t be right and even if it were to be correct then why do they treat me like it?

  3. I have to agree with you, my parents scold at me a lot for even trying to fix something. My parents always give me hand me downs from my older brother and give my younger brother who is six the latest phone and gives me a old crappy phone. My parents always scream at me for no apparent reason and make me feel like an alien in the house. They always take pictures of my older and younger brothers and never me and dis include me in many activities.

  4. I feel the same way but I’m an adult with a disability. So does my sis. My youngest bro is really smart. I have another bro, but he has a family of his own. my other sis. ran away with a guy. But I’m over that. I don’t ask my parents for much but it seems like when I do everyone gets on me tells no you don’t need that. And everything in my room needs re-placement parts or something. Most of my stuff I’ve had is almost ten years old. time to either update or get upgraded.

  5. I feel the same way. I don’t get straight A’s but I still try my best. I take like so many AP classes in high school and never get time to do what I want. I f I get into a fight with my little brother all they do is yell at me and just forget what he ever does to me. I keep so many things from my parents about my little brother and he just goes and blames everything on me. I get scared to talk to my mother about anything. P.S. Isabel, they are making me go to the college that they want me to go to not what I want to go to. Hope you have fun leaving and living on your own in 4-5 years from now.

  6. I know exactly how you fell my dad is 3rd out of 10 and my mother is 4 out of 6th i can relate to almost everything you feel, sometimes i feel like i am the only one who feels this way

  7. YAY! the exact same story for me as you described..im the bad guy of the family. the only differences was that i had two brothers, and my dad hit me (either a slap to the face or sometimes using a leather belt or some nearby object. he even used the tv remote to hit me..and it broke haha)
    glad to know others have the same problem, unfortunately it affects our personality as a person. i know i have low self confidence and self esteem. plus i never got good grades in high school as i always screwed around

  8. I just laughed when i read this. I felt like 13 again. I am 51 and a headmistress of a school. I just stumbled across this forum when i was searching for information for a couple who are expecting a their third child and the second is already struggling. Being a middle child makes you strong headed and independent which is good. I have lost both parents but i hated them when i was growing up and still seem to struggle to bond with my siblings. Be srong oaa of you!!!!

  9. Omg you make me feel so much better. This is my life exactly!!!! I still have 6 more years till i move outt though. No one should ever go throgh what we have. My saying isthat all this will make us stronger than them someday. You are not alone! Your story is just like mine! If you ever need to talk., email me at izzyccal@hotmail.com

  10. That’s EXACTLY how I feel! Two sisters, me in the middle! I’m sooo happy I read this because I thought I was the only one that felt like this! Thank you!

    1. Right I get abused for no reason and when my sisters hit me and I try to defend my self I always get in trouble or get hit in the face -,- I’m the muddle child and sometimes I wish other people could/would adopt me and love me and not treat me like a slave everything you have said relates to me so,well !!

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