My Life as a Middle Child

Well I have 2 older sisters and two younger sisters I am the middle child. My life as a middle child has not been happy and I guess will never be until I am on my own and move far far away! Here’s my story: When I was really young like at the age of 6, maybe 7 was when I realized how tough it is to be a middle child. It was when my sisters decided to play a game involving teams well my eldest sister teamed up with my youngest sister and my other 2 sisters teamed up and I couldn’t play because I didn’t have a team mate! So i just sat on the side and watch my sister’s laugh and play while I sat and wish to not be the middle child the one left out the forgotten one. The older I got the more I realized I didn’t actually fit in with my family. My older sisters got all the attention I wanted from my mom and my two younger ones got away with anything. Megan whom is 2 yrs younger than me and isn’t the baby but acts like one use to and still does pretend that I hurt her or said something and of course my dad would believe her she never got in trouble for anything. I on the other hand was blamed for anything and everything that was done wrong. When my eldest sister moved out and my 2nd older sister Caroline took over and became the suck up 2 my mom. I am fixing to turn 16 and I am begging for my mom’s attention yet she doesn’t care. Because Caroline is so attached to my mom she doesn’t even know I exist!!

My parents never came to any of my award ceremony’s none of my school orientation nothing! The reason why was because my older sisters had went to their school orientation’s and my parents came to theirs so they said that they knew what is going to be about therefore it was pointless to go! Well since they didn’t go 2 my 6th grade school orientation on the first day of 6th grade I had no idea where my classroom was or where to go I walked around hopelessly until the principal saw me and said i was late for my class and lecture me on how I shouldn’t be late on the first day of school then he finally pointed me in the direction I needed to go. Oh and in 7th grade when I won a scholarship to the community college for free since my older sister got one my parents didn’t even go to my ceremony that was a big deal because it was about my outstanding excellence in academics and that’s why I won it! But they didn’t care they wouldn’t waste the time to go to something if they went to it with the older ones! But get this my younger sister Megan when she was going into middle school for the first time my parents went to her 6th grade school orientation!! But they didn’t go to MINE!!!

I try everything to gain some attention from my parents but fail at it every time! I do so well in school but they don’t care. I brought home straight A’s and my mom looked at my report card and said ok? But my younger sister brought her card home and made 3 F’s and one D so my mom goes “Oh my god honey you did so good!! Since you did well on your report card you get to choose where to eat tonight.” I was like WTF?? I make straight A’s and get an ok and she brings home F’s and a D and she gets congratulated!!

It really sucks being the middle child. Being the one that gets blamed for everything, being the one who is neglected, being the one who is left out the one whom everyone thinks is the trouble maker the one who they think is a mistake. I still feel like sometimes I was adopted and I want to believe that but i know it’s not true it’s just a sad little lie I tell myself to make myself feel better. It’s really hard on me because i push myself so far that I am at the breaking part to try to impress my parents! I have learned to be completely self motivated because my parents don’t push me to do anything but be like my other sisters they always compare to my other sisters and ask why I can’t be more like them why I can’t be act like them why I can’t just be like them NEWSFLASH I’M NOT THEM I AM ME!!

On my 15 birthday I didn’t even get a birthday cake, a card, gift NOTHING! Because on my birthday it was the day of my older sister Caroline’s Prom so I didn’t even get a happy birthday from my mom or dad, So you know what I had to do I took myself into the kitchen and got one of those Debbie cake cupcakes then I got a candle lit it and had a b-day party all by myself I sat at the counter crying over my cupcake wishing I had someone who actually cared for me.

I am not sure if being the middle child makes you stronger or weaker I believe it makes you stronger for the fact that my dad hit me across the face once because I started off to him I didn’t cry I stood there and took it but my older sister once when he yelled at her for something she started bawling and whining. I can take way more than my sisters there so weak and so fragile but I am stronger than them I can take the heat I can stand there and take someone screaming at me and not even flinch!

I have became way more independent ever since I was 10 years old and my parents left me at home and took my sisters with them because I told them I didn’t want to go to the stupid parade with them because my sisters each got a dollar and I didn’t get one because my older sister swore I took money from her and I didn’t so my punishment was that I didn’t get a dollar to spend at the parade well I stayed home alone while they went and spent like 4 hours at the parade! I had to cook supper for myself so I went in and cook peas, mac-&-cheese with nuggets I learned from then on that I would be defending for myself for the rest of my life and that is just how I have been doing since then.

Being a middle child shouldn’t be like this i shouldn’t have had to felt sorry for myself and sometime pack my bags then climb out my window and plan to leave and go somewhere else where I would be loved. I shouldn’t have had to pray to God that he would take me outta this world. Or believe that I was adopted I shouldn’t have to go through all of this NO ONE should!!! It’s quite sad how much trauma it is on a middle child yet everyone just believes that we are just jealous and wanting attention and always think about themselves!

GUESS WHAT?????? They are partly right! We do want attention really bad and if they show some to us we wouldn’t want it as bad!! We DO get jealous I am not going to lie we do but it’s for the fact that our siblings get stuff we don’t have they either gets treated like angels and we are the demons or they get all the attention and we would just die to have one day in their shoes!! Also middle child people don’t have the time to think about themselves because there to busy thinking about how they could get their parents attention and at least some affection!!

I HAVE AN IDEA 4 PEOPLE WHO THINK THAT MIDDLE CHILD PEOPLE ARE THESE TYPES OF PEOPLE HOW ABOUT YOU TRY 2 AT LEAST IMAGINE BEING THE ONE LEFT OUT THE ONE NO ONE CARES ABOUT THE ONE WHO HAS TO DEFEND FOR THEMSELVES THE ONES EVERYONE HATES!!!!!!!!!! TRY THAT BEFORE YOU SAY ANYTHING!

Kam

6 thoughts on “My Life as a Middle Child

  1. I am a middle child too. My older and younger sister are close and I’m left out. I was always left out. My older sister was very violent to me and my younger sister sided with the older one.

    They still want me in their lives because it makes them feel closer but I have nothing to do with them. My family didn’t treat me well and I don’t see any of them anymore. I live independently and I have my own family now.

    I feel bad for you. It sounds like your family is being rotten to you. Sometimes one kid becomes the scapegoat. Just work hard and find friends and people who support you and if your family and siblings don’t treat you well, I’d say, distance yourself from them. You don’t have to eat shit from anybody.

  2. i have to say.. this was really comforting. i thought i was crazy cuz i feel the same way, i plan my escape everyday wanting to run away. I’d pray to God to take me out of my misery. I always have to take care of my baby brother, so much in fact i feel like his mother. Im only 16 and i feel so alone sometimes that ill just cry out of nowhere. I have bad dreams of my parents beating me and i wake up and look around to make sure they arent actually there. My older sister acts like shes an angel and has never done anything wrong and when i screw up a little bit she has to lecture me like shes my mom and how im pretty much the devil. I have to say there should be like a middle child club cuz im sure there are a lot of kids that feel this way. i dont want every middle child to feel alone espcailly if there in a really bad enviroment. plus we could help each other through our hard times.

    i just really liked ur story it made me feel better, thank you

  3. Hey im a middle child too. i alwys though that i was alwys overly sensitive and that i am a ‘drama queen’ according to my parents but im not. im just a normal teenager that needs to feel loved! i have one older sister and one younger sister and a younger brother. when we go to gatherings no one remembers my name they only know my older sisters name and younger one and my brother. My mom and i dont have a relationship. we never talk because we never have anything to talk about. i just fought with my mom and started researching about this middle child syndrome and found out that thats exactly my problem. i dont feel appreciated, i could literally just leave the house and come back and no one would even notice. whenever im at home i always just keep my self in my room and never leave. and if i ever have dinner with my whole family the only reason theyd talk to me is either because their complaining about me or to go and get them something. My older sister never helps because she always complains that i stick to her too much and all my friends left for university so now im stuck and i dont have anyone to ‘escape’ too. my sister always looks down on me and says im too spoiled and that im so sensitive. im in freshmen year of university am i too old for this? please i want your feed backk!

  4. i feel so bad for you. i just wamt to give you a hug and say that no matter what i’ll stick by you. i know how it feels to be negleted and i can relate to you situation and keep trying. i know you’ll be better in the long run. i wish the best of luck to you.

    -rachel

  5. Hey Kam,

    I, too, am a middle child and felt alot like you did when I was growing up. I remember telling people when I was in my teens and 20’s that I felt like an only child when I was younger. My two older sisters were a year apart in age and my two younger brothers were boys. So I spent alot of time alone, reading in my room or hanging out with my friends. Funny part is, my two older sisters say that I’ve always been our mom’s favorite but she was a middle child too so she made sure she treated us all the same. She tried but I , like you, learned how to be independent from a very early age. I like to think that it helped me mature alot faster than the rest of my siblings and it’s an empowering and liberating feeling to be so self-reliant and self-sufficient. I moved out of the house when I was 17, graduated early from high school and went on to college with the help of financial aid. I have always sided with the underdog because I know what it feels like to be the underdog or to be the one that’s “looked over”. You can turn this time in your life into something positive or dwell on the negative. I vote you be positive, set some goals for your future and move on with your life. Even with being the middle child, I have grown up to be a very positive person and look for the best in everyone, even my own family. We ALL have faults which make us human but be happy for being you, faults and all. I would not want to trade shoes with any of my siblings for anything. I love who I am and how I’ve turned out. You can be the same way and you have the power to make that choice. Take care.

    Tina

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