Being the Middle Child

Being a middle child really sucks. I am not generalizing this statement, because middle child syndrome is very real. It is a condition that continues to affect millions of people around the world, including me.

I hate my middle child personality, it is like a disease inside me. I have never felt I truly belonged. All the attention were given to the first and last child. I feel that everything I do goes unnoticed, sometimes it seems that I was not intended to be part of the family. Middle children are the black sheep of the family. Middle children are the outcasts. Yes, I was always aware of middle child personality, they say that middle children are underachievers and inferior compare to our siblings. I personally do not believe this. Since I was a kid, I was driven to achieve things just to be noticed. While being successful at being praised and honored, I still didn’t feel loved at all.

I think middle children are really talented individuals. Well, I’m not a professional artist, but I can say that I’m pretty artistic compared to my other siblings. But still, I always feel that there is something lacking, that feeling prevents me from pursuing my dreams and ambitions. I feel that before I can live my life, I must first move on from the past, which is very hard to do.

I am already 22 years old, still single and living on my own. I hope that all these will pass, and one day I will look at myself and be proud of who I am and what I have achieved, not for the acceptance of others, but for myself.

I strongly believe that good parenting must be practiced by all aspiring parents. In this way, unloved children like me would not continue to suffer. Middle children deserve better.

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Still glooming over your unlucky fate?

You shouldn’t be! Being a middle child is not only all cons, middle children are also known for their determination and passion. Here is a short list of famous middle children: Bill Gates, Madonna, Donald Trump, Princess Diana, etc. After hearing these big names, there is simply no excuse for you to be depressed.

So what can you do to move on?

First, forget about the past. Do not always bring back sad and painful memories. Instead, think of joyful memories in your childhood. Build on these thoughts and try to live a happy life.

Second, start with yourself. Do not expect everyone to immediately change to fit your needs. You should be the first to show them that you have changed. Try to show them that you care, and you will be rewarded a hundredfold.

Lastly, always put God in the center of your life. He is always there, always looking after you. Begin each day by praying, thanking God for all the gifts you have received from Him.

After following these guidelines, all you have to do is wait and you will see that everything and everyone around you will soon begin to change.

“The more difficulties one has to encounter, within and without, the more significant and the higher in inspiration his life will be.”

Horace Bushnell