Middle Child Syndrome or Depression?

I’m not to sure if in my case I would be the middle child due to my mom having four children, but the point is I’m not sure if I’m having middle child syndrome effects. The reason why all three of my siblings graduated high school and i didn’t or why I’m 20 and still have not had my own car and still haven’t had my own room. I’m still haven’t got my ged and from time to time my mom will speak to me about it but then just changes subjects like it’s a big deal but it’s not anything she will help me to fix. I am the black sheep of my family for 1 I’m gay 2 I smoke weed 3 am the only one with thoughts of suicide. that’s when i question if that is middle child syndrome or just effects of depression?
– porchia

Hi porchia. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Yes, it seems that you are suffering from middle child syndrome. You must be aware that it all started from being ignored and unloved. Being gay or smoking weed, that is not who you are. Believe me I know how hard it is to live with that. Just stay clean and spend time with your friends. We believe in you, may God watch over you.

3 thoughts on “Middle Child Syndrome or Depression?

  1. I have to say that as I read the response to this 20 year old, I was appalled! To say that it is because someone is ignored and unloved is a terrible shame! Being the mother of four daughters ages 25,17,14 and 12 I am sad to say that my 14 year old is dealing with depression that I believe stems from being a middle child. SHE IS VERY MUCH LOVED AND NOT IGNORED! However, I feel guilty that with things going on in her sisters lives I have not been able to spend the time she needs from me, with her. I have been searching for advice online and come across this page. Please understand, I am sure your family loves you and the fact that you are gay. That is just who you are. Be proud! The drug use, not a positive choice and at 20 you might want to look at help for that, and also open up to your family about how you are feeling. The response to you directly below your post, is a sad excuse for positive advice!!

  2. I know how you feel. I am the middle son between two crazy and needy sisters, needless to say i didn’t receive much attention or help growing up. As an adult though, some of the charactoristics i developed in childhood are serving me well. Being independent and self relient are huge advantages in life i find. Also the “peacemaker” skilles i learned make people seek out and trust my opion on matters, because I have the ability to look at things from all perspectives. I know from experience that looking back at your childhood as a middle can be painful, but know that you are not alone and that you control your destiny.

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