Being the Middle Child

Being a middle child really sucks. I am not generalizing this statement, because middle child syndrome is very real. It is a condition that continues to affect millions of people around the world, including me.

I hate my middle child personality, it is like a disease inside me. I have never felt I truly belonged. All the attention were given to the first and last child. I feel that everything I do goes unnoticed, sometimes it seems that I was not intended to be part of the family. Middle children are the black sheep of the family. Middle children are the outcasts. Yes, I was always aware of middle child personality, they say that middle children are underachievers and inferior compare to our siblings. I personally do not believe this. Since I was a kid, I was driven to achieve things just to be noticed. While being successful at being praised and honored, I still didn’t feel loved at all.

I think middle children are really talented individuals. Well, I’m not a professional artist, but I can say that I’m pretty artistic compared to my other siblings. But still, I always feel that there is something lacking, that feeling prevents me from pursuing my dreams and ambitions. I feel that before I can live my life, I must first move on from the past, which is very hard to do.

I am already 22 years old, still single and living on my own. I hope that all these will pass, and one day I will look at myself and be proud of who I am and what I have achieved, not for the acceptance of others, but for myself.

I strongly believe that good parenting must be practiced by all aspiring parents. In this way, unloved children like me would not continue to suffer. Middle children deserve better.

Between two sisters

My name is Olivia and I too am the middle child of three girls! I think being the middle child of three same sex children makes it even harder, especially with the competition of girls! All my life I have been known as the weird one the outcast just as thus site says. As i got older i became a bit chubby and that’s when my three year older sister made my life hell! She never let me forget about my weight issues and always used that as an excuse to make me cry. Now she is 22, I am 19 and my younger sister is 16. The 22 year old and 16 year old get along great but I however am left alone never even acknowledged. Now its my younger sister who makes fun of my weight, even though i am technically at a normal weight range. The stress from being the middle child or outcast has led to my eating disorder issues, depression, and even suicidal attempts. This site makes me happy to see that there are others living through it and going through what i had to somewhat!

Hi Olivia! First of all, I am surprised to read this. It reminds me exactly of myself. I am the middle, between two sisters. At a point in my life, I became very fat, obese I think, due to emotional eating. Believe me when I tell you that I understand exactly how to be the middle of two sisters, and how the younger sister can be very annoying. I try to spend more time outdoors when I’m feeling lonely, playing sports like badminton, you could try it, it really helps.

Are You Often Sad and Depressed?

At least at one point in our lives, we all undergo a stage of depression. It is most of the time completely normal to have symptoms of depression and prolonged sadness, however sometimes severe depression could develop into clinical depression or what they call major depression. This is a serious medical illness that would require professional help.

Stress was killing me

I recently went to see my psychiatrist because I feel like depression is starting to have really harmful effects on my health. My doctor first talked to me, like he was diagnosing how bad my depression was. I have been advised to take some antidepressants, which I respectfully refused. I personally think that I do not need them, but I agree that the use of these antidepressant may prove effective for most people. If you are feeling very discomfortable and troubled, do not hesitate to take the medication.

There are a lot of methods in treating depression. The most usual methods are psychotherapy, the use of antidepressants, I have even heard of giving the patient electric shocking. For most cases, the use of these methods are combined to enhance the effects.

Depression Medicines

Based on some researches, there are three chemicals responsible for causing clinical depression. The three are norepinephrine, serotonin, and dopamine, which transmit electrical signals through brain cells. Antidepressant medications work by increasing the functionality of neurotransmitters or by changing the sensitivity of the receptors in our brain. The researchers believed that modifying these brain chemicals can help in treating depression.

For more information on the depression medicines, please consult your psychiatrist.

Effects of Proper Medication

These are just some benefits of taking your medications. Note that it is not always advisable to take these medicines in treating depression so make sure you consult your doctor. I’m not a doctor.

  • Better Sleep

Taking these medications will most likely give you a good night’s rest. You will be more energetic to do your daily task.

  • Better Performance at Work

Having more energy will make you more productive in your work.

  • Happy Living

Treating your depression attacks can remove the obstacles in your life. Without these obstacles, you can live a more fulfilling life, meet new people and be closer to your family and friends.

Birth Order Traits – Do I have to be affected?

Still glooming over your unlucky fate?

You shouldn’t be! Being a middle child is not only all cons, middle children are also known for their determination and passion. Here is a short list of famous middle children: Bill Gates, Madonna, Donald Trump, Princess Diana, etc. After hearing these big names, there is simply no excuse for you to be depressed.

So what can you do to move on?

First, forget about the past. Do not always bring back sad and painful memories. Instead, think of joyful memories in your childhood. Build on these thoughts and try to live a happy life.

Second, start with yourself. Do not expect everyone to immediately change to fit your needs. You should be the first to show them that you have changed. Try to show them that you care, and you will be rewarded a hundredfold.

Lastly, always put God in the center of your life. He is always there, always looking after you. Begin each day by praying, thanking God for all the gifts you have received from Him.

After following these guidelines, all you have to do is wait and you will see that everything and everyone around you will soon begin to change.

“The more difficulties one has to encounter, within and without, the more significant and the higher in inspiration his life will be.”

Horace Bushnell